Shame thrives in secrecy and vagueness. Make it specific, then make it small. Write: “I feel shame about ______.” Then write: “The repair that fits today is ______.” Choose a repair sized for one day: an apology text, a boundary, a payment plan, a cleanup, a single honest conversation. Complete the first visible step within 3 minutes. End by placing a hand on your chest and saying: “I practice repair. I practice return.”